It sucks to admit, but I broke up with him after 6 months because I didn't think there was any point if we couldn't be together forever. After dating a doctor for 5 years and finally realizing that what I'm dealing with is an excessive need for being put on a pedestal and adulation by mainly female colleagues of lower professional rank nurses I decided to move on. As someone born and raised in the church this has been very difficult to moderate and there is some social pressure to become more involved.
Even if you are looking towards marriage, it can be better to hold off on more serious activities until a couple of dates to make sure you both feel the relationship is moving in the right direction. It's scary to feel like you might never measure up to someone's expectations you love. But now, we embrace our spiritual differences. She went to BYU and did a 2 year mission, but since she was a girl she got to have a car instead of a bicycle. I am a fierce supporter of him and of his profession but at high cost to my own individuality. This is tough enough when the kids are babies, but when they're older - teenagers - you'll get to tackle all of the hormone-fueled angst, drama, school difficulties, homework, school activities, and be the scapegoat when the kids get mad at you. If he weren't a doctor saving lives and had more free time, he could most definitely do YOUR job. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. In the end people have to make their own decisions.
The sad part is that he does not understand what I go through or if I complain or try to make him understand about what's going on at home or my feelings. This is the type of doctrine that Joseph rejected and so have the leaders of the church. And some of them are selfish and fully aware that as a doctor they can pull in hot females, many of whom will put up with being treated poorly. Too bad she couldn't handle the guilt and remorse. Why not ask him where he wants the relationship to go.
Doctors don't have time for anything really they are overworkedand tired all the times. To his defense, when we were great, we were great. She may never join the join the church. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. Is it wrong that I feel guilty?. Just go ahead and ask for the definitions and treat it like learning a new language. Such beliefs make the girls confident about being women. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple.
